Empathy. Unconditional positive regard. Genuineness. Those are the qualities Carl Rogers, the father of modern-day counseling, called for in his person-centered approach to psychotherapy.
- Empathy: the ability to understand and share the feelings of another.
- Unconditional positive regard: accepting and appreciating you for who you are.
- Genuineness: being transparent and not hiding behind a professional facade.
And that's exactly what you'll get from me.
I believe one of the most important parts of psychotherapy is a supportive environment where you can talk openly about what you're feeling, thinking, and doing. The therapy relationship is nonjudgmental and nurturing. At the same time, you'll be challenged just enough to stretch beyond your comfort zone and grow.
Within the field of counseling, there are many philosophies / schools of thought / frameworks / collections of techniques / ways of doing theray. Each therapist chooses at least one of these theoretical orientations to use with clients. My theoretical orientation is primarily solution focused, with a healthy dose of person-centered (as described above), cognitive behavioral (CBT), and choice theory.
In Solution Focused Therapy, the focus is on the future. We don't spend a lot of time dwelling on problems, because then all we see is problems and it's easy to lose hope. The suffering goes on and on. Instead, we focus on the solution. What does your desired outcome look like? How do you want things to be? How do we get there? As Steven Covey wrote in The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, "To begin with the end in mind... means to know where you’re going so that you better understand where you are now and so that the steps you take are always in the right direction."
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) holds that our thoughts control our feelings and actions. My role is to help you identify unhealthy, un-helpful thoughts and beliefs, then challenge them and and replace them. It's not as simple as it sounds because often we are unaware of these automatic negative thoughts. They're often rooted in a lifetime of negative programming. Initially, it's hard to do CBT on your own although the goal is precisely that.
Choice Theory holds that our wellbeing is directly affected by the choices we make. If we can make healthier choices in the way we think and act, we will feel happier. My role is to help you identify the choices you are presently making (including non-action, which is also a choice), and the choices currently available to you. Again, it's not as simple as it sounds.
Above all, I believe that you have all the solutions you need within yourself. My role is to provide you with a flashlight so you can see through the darkness and find them.